Addressing this issue can be challenging, especially if the child has spent several years learning that persistence often leads to getting what they want. The adults in their lives may have developed habits that unintentionally support this behaviour.
The first step is to examine your actions as well as those of all the adults involved in the child’s upbringing. Identify the habits that encourage the child’s entitlement and either collaborate with those individuals to adjust their behaviours or limit their involvement with the child for the time being.
It might mean cutting back on visits to grandma until the child learns and adopts a new set of behaviours.
While it’s unfortunate, prioritizing the child’s future takes precedence over adult feelings in this situation.
Keep a close eye on interactions to ensure everyone adheres to the new rules.
Remember, you will be parenting this child for a limited time, but if you have raised a spoiled child and only start addressing their behaviour at age ten, you might find yourself facing the consequences of earlier inaction.
Once you ensure the adults are aligned, you can shift your focus to the child, and this will undoubtedly be the tougher part.
Establish and maintain clear boundaries. There are countless resources available that can help you identify and enforce these boundaries positively.
Understand that “no” should be treated as a complete sentence when necessary. By age ten, engaging in discussion and explanation typically becomes more effective; it’s important to strengthen your knowledge and communication skills to outmatch the child’s arguments.
Recognize good behaviour and ensure there are consequences for misbehaviour. This doesn’t mean resorting to physical punishment but rather implementing a fair disciplinary system where consequences fit the behaviour.
Consistency is key – be firm so that, the child understands his misbehaviour will lead to repercussions. Resist the temptation to change any punishments based on your mood, whether you are having a tough day or not. Be prepared to put in extra effort and work hard to correct not only the child’s behaviour but also that of the adults around them.
